Saturday, September 03, 2016

The Best Way To Love

No one wants to feel alone, yet no one wants to be heartbroken. This statement presents the paradox of life. As humans, we all desire company and companionship. But to find the best companion, you have to work on being the best companion there is.
It is simply not enough to say that when you find "that someone" is when you will work on being a good companion. It has to start with YOU. Are you the best companion to yourself? Can you honestly look at yourself in the mirror and still love what you see, both inside and out?
For you to find that genuine love, you first have to learn to love yourself genuinely, fully and freely. Only then can you give that same love to another person.

The Three Types of Friends

In life you will meet three types of people;
Some who will love you for who you are.
Some who will break your heart.
Some who will love you for what you have and pretend to love you genuinely.
The best love is found in the first category of people.
The best pretenders are found in the second type of people, while the third group competes with the second group in their purpose, and should be kept at a distance. They are the worst kind of friends, because their time with you will only last as long as they can benefit from you.
When you are not able to satisfy their beneficial hunger, they turn away and forget you.

The Poison of Toxic Social Relations

Sometimes in life we are tempted to hold on to things and people whom, even when it's rather clear, are not good for us.
Toxic situations and relationships within social settings are largely defined as and when two consenting parties are involved in each other's lives, but what they have going is unequally shared.
This can be in many ways. For instance, when one party takes unfair and uncalled for advantage over the other based on various differing criteria, or when one party (selfishly) refuses to commit themselves fully to the ongoing relation with their significant other.
Such instances call for a review of pre-existing relational ties, especially on the part of the victim of unfair treatment within the otherwise toxic relationship. Lest one sacrifices his/her individuality, self-worth, and inner peace, all for nothing good in return. This may sometimes result in negative consequences like, chronic depression, stress-related illnesses or in worst case scenarios, suicide.